You must be very excited about meeting your date tonight and you want to hit it off with her right from the very beginning. You find each other smart, attractive and very interesting. The attraction has been mutual all this while and your heart literally leapt with joy when he/she agreed to your date proposal. There are a few things to keep in mind so that doesn’t end up screwing up the date and the relationship. There are a few mistakes you need to be aware of while dating, else it will leave you single for the rest of your life:
Talking obscene on the first date
The first date is always about getting to know each other, their hobbies, their families and their interests. You have to be decent, interesting and very informative to keep the attraction going on. While sex might be at the back of your mind throughout, it can and it should wait. Do not make any suggestive gestures in actions or words initially as you might make your date run away from you thinking you as a pervert. Worse would be when he/she spreads this to their friends about your character and you will end up being the laughing-stock in your area and none will want to date you.
Dressing the wrong way
As they say that the first impression is the last impression, you have to make sure that you look quite presentable to your date. You should be a clever amalgamation of fashion and comfort. Do not dress up in revealing clothes or try to look like the local don. Dress up smartly, make sure you do not smell, shave and comb your hair well and make sure your mouth does not smell. You have to have a pleasing personality as word spreads. If you end up with our date smelling like a horse stable, she might find you repulsive and even talk about you to your friends.
Being Shallow and Critical
Criticizing your date before you get to know them is a big turn off. Don’t judge a book by its cover. You would be surprised to know that same person might have much more to offer than you think. Another thing is being shallow, guys don’t turn down a lady because her boobs are small or her butts not big enough. Looks are not everything, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you continue to be shallow you might just ruin your chance of ever finding love.
Being Obnoxious
Being rude is unacceptable, nobody wants to date and obnoxious person. Try your best to be nice and compliment each other. Even if the date is not going well, there is still no need to be obnoxious. You’re an adult now, try to act accordingly.
Being Pretentious
Do all the things a lady likes like pulling the car door for her, helping her with her coat and offer to pay for both of you. Be honest about your relationship status, your past affairs and your job if asked for. Do not lie in order to cast a good impression as she will eventually come to know if you are lying and post you up on Facebook and Instagram on a meme. haha
Bad-mouthing about your past dates
This definitely casts a bad impression on your date and you will only make he/she feel uncomfortable in your presence. You have to know each other truly well first to bitch about someone else. Doing so on the first date will make them realize that you might do the same to them.
Tardiness
Oh gosh!! If your excuse is that you got stuck in traffic which causes you to be 45 minutes late. Do me a favour and stay there.
Rushing into things
Take it slow no need to kiss or get intimate on the first date. The other person might not like this and ultimately think you’re just in it for one thing only.
Being self-absorbed
Don’t try to make everything about you, try to listen and observe more. Be understanding and interactive. Everything is not about you try to equally find out and give information about each other and enjoy the day or night together.
Using your phone
Phones can be distracting, but when you’re on a date this kind of distraction you don’t need. Being on your phone is rude and sends the wrong message. If you can’t respect a simple date how are you going to respect a relationship?
The most important thing for a relationship to last is honesty. Do not try to woo someone under a false façade. Be your honest and gentle self and best of luck with your date tonight!
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